Readers, I need you to give it to me straight. Do I need to let go of my hope for connection? Over the past the year, I've done some serious blog hopping, commenting and participating in a variety of online activities and events. I've just signed on for several challenges for 2010. I confess I'm a joiner. Before the Internet, I hung out at coffee houses, joined clubs and served on committees. Today, my social life is insulated, centralized. I confess I now spend most of my social life online.
With every meme or challenge, I hope to meet new people or to connect in a more intimate way with bloggers I've met and enjoyed, but more often than not, I find I'm not meeting new folks, I'm not interacting more; I often feel I'm shouting to the wind. Even here, followers are multiplying but less than 1% comment. I'd love to chat with you all at least once. Is that silly or unrealistic? I'd visit your blogs and comment in your space but many of you don't have links in your profile so unless you initiate, I can't even say hello.
Holidays aside, is it unrealistic to expect participants in memes or challenges to visit and comment to one another? Do we join so we have a larger audience and another opportunity to chat with established friends? What about the obvious new folks? Are we invisible? Am I the only one joining these activities so I can meet you?
I'm beginning think that the majority of bloggers are very interested in saying what they think in their own space and among close friends, but not very interested in widening circles. And maybe it's time I stop hoping for inclusion. And those of you who have been reading me for awhile no this complaint isn't new. I want FEEDBACK. I want to go into 2010 with realistic expectations so tell me if it's time to let go.
I'll close with something not narcissistic but very disturbing to me. This week when a young man suffered severe burns in a terrorist attack on a flight to Detroit, one of our stateswomen said he shouldn't have been taken to a burn center but straight to jail. Now, at-large many will condemn the terrorist, but what about the mindset of the political figure, a woman who represents a group of citizens? Where is this woman's humanity? Humanity isn't doled out to the deserving, it is a core characteristic that moves us to behave at the highest level and that means to treat all people humanely because it's the right thing to do.
I was saddened by the young man's warped actions, but the stateswoman's comments stunned me. I was appalled. Are we as a society equally demented, so willing to shuck our humanity because others want to do us harm?